DEAR ABBY: Our family is having its first reunion since my mother and father have been gone. We three brothers are now the oldest generation. My older brothers are planning the event. They are inviting my ex-wife of 21 years, but none of my three nephews' exes. This is upsetting to me and my wife of 20 years.
I feel strongly that when you marry, you marry into the family, and when you divorce, you divorce “out” of the family. My ex-wife and two sisters-in-law have remained close friends since our divorce and have shunned my present wife.
Should we be upset about the invitation? Should we not attend if my ex comes? One brother says she is still “part of the family” and should be included. My wife and I are furious. Who is right here? -- PARTY POOPER IN IOWA

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