Dear Annie: I have two grown children who are doing well, both married, and one is expecting my first grandson. I’m a widow; their dad passed away 10 years ago. We all live in different cities, and I speak with my daughter weekly and with my son monthly.
For Christmas, my daughter usually travels, and my son spends it with his wife’s family, leaving me alone. A few years ago, I rented a condo for us to meet, but no one showed up, so I decided not to try that again. They said they were busy with their in-laws.
I’ve continued to send gifts for birthdays and Christmas, but I rarely get acknowledgment unless I follow up. I never receive gifts in return -- just a card from my daughter at Christmas, the same one she sends to everyone.
They’re financially secure, while I live on Social Security and work part-time. Is it OK to stop sending gifts for birthdays and Christmas and just send a thoughtful card instead? -- Feeling Overlooked

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