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Dear Annie: Our adopted kids’ trauma accusations are heartbreaking after all we sacrificed to raise them
Dear Annie: Our adopted kids’ trauma accusations are heartbreaking after all we sacrificed to raise them
Dear Annie: Our adopted kids’ trauma accusations are heartbreaking after all we sacrificed to raise them

Published on: 05/11/2026

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Annie Lane writes the Dear Annie advice column.

Dear Annie: My husband and I took in five siblings after both of their parents died, even though we were already raising a large family of our own. Overnight, our lives changed. The children were 7, 9, 12, 13 and 15 when they came to us, and we did our best to give them safety, stability and love. We showed up for school events, sports, camps and counseling, though one child’s severe behavioral struggles made daily life especially difficult.

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In 1962, President John F. Kennedy signed a proclamation designating May 15th as Peace Officers Memorial Day, and the week in which it falls as Police Week. This is a time when our country memorializes law enforcement personnel who died in the line of duty. Tens of thousands of law enforcement officers from around the world converge at the National Law Enforcement Officers Memorial in Washington, DC to pay their respects and honor officers who have died in the line of duty. Our own county has had many deputies – and even a sheriff – lay down their lives in service to the people of our county. Join us in remembering their sacrifice. ⭐️ Sheriff William W. Withers February 7, 1903 - Sheriff Withers was killed attempting to apprehend Elliott Lyons, a horse thief, wanted in Jackson County. The slayer escaped, but a huge posse was formed and he was captured in Creswell under a train that was heading out of town. In Eugene, Oregon, under the direction of Fred Fisk, a deputy under Withers and a Lane County Judge, witnessed the hanging of Lyons outside the Lane County Courthouse. This was the last public function of the kind in the state. He was survived by his wife and son. ⭐️ Deputy C. Rollin Wicks May 14, 1937 - Deputy Wicks was killed by a neighbor during arrest after the man shot and wounded another neighbor while engaged in a dispute. Deputy Wicks was unarmed at the time. Deputies surrounded the house for five hours while tear gas was rushed to the scene from Salem. The suspect later died from a self-inflicted gunshot wound after holding off deputies, state police officers, employees of the nearby Booth Kelly Mill and residents of Wendling. ⭐️ Chief Criminal Detective David D. Hefner July 13, 1957 - Chief Criminal Detective Hefner responded to a family disturbance call in the River Road area. During the altercation, Detective Hefner was shot in the back. 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While making a traffic stop in the area which is now the Valley River Center off ramp, he was shot by Carl Cletus Bowles and Wilford Gray, both escaped convicts. Carl Cletus Bowles escaped from Oregon State Penitentiary custody June of 1974 and was the focus of a huge manhunt in Eugene on June 14, 1974. He subsequently kidnapped a couple from South Eugene and later murdered them in Washington. He was recaptured and convicted of the homicides. Deputy Smith left a widow, Margaret Perdue, five sons and a daughter. Randy Smith became a Captain with the Lane County Sheriff's Office and another son, Don Smith, worked as a Eugene Police officer. 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