Dear Annie: Favoritism soured my childhood, with my mother showing clear preference for my siblings, while I was often left feeling invisible and unworthy. When I tried to address it, she would deny any favoritism, brushing off my feelings as if they didn’t matter. This denial only deepened the hurt, and over the years, I began to question my own perceptions. The constant yearning for her approval shaped much of my life, dictating my choices and priorities.
When my father passed away, I found myself at a crossroads. I walked away from my mother without planning to, an action that many saw as heartless -- and it was something I have sort of regretted over time.
But at the same time, seven years later -- if I am being totally honest -- I don’t feel even a twinge of regret. For the first time, I acted in my own interest instead of bending to please her, and I realize now that her approval was something I was never going to receive. I freed myself from that cycle, and I haven’t looked back.
She was well cared for and in good hands, and I wouldn’t have left if she were in need. But I couldn’t keep sacrificing myself to earn a validation that would never come. It took me decades to recognize the importance of my own well-being.
Why do so many people struggle to put themselves first? -- Was Never Going to Be Good Enough

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