DEAR ABBY: My 98-year-old mother has spent the last eight years in a nursing home. My siblings and I placed her there when her health declined to a point where it was no longer safe for her to live alone. Her mind is sharp, but she has a hard time getting around and caring for herself. She has made friends there and is loved by everyone who meets her.
I live 65 miles away and visit her every two weeks. My brother lives several hours away and tries to see her every six to eight weeks. My sisters live closer and visit Mom often. Mom enjoys these visits.
The problem is the eight grandchildren. Most of them live nearby and are either too busy or say they can’t stand to visit Grandma “in the home.” The ones who live farther away hardly ever call. My siblings and I have tried dropping subtle hints by telling them how much a visit would mean to her, to no avail. My worry is that someday they’ll realize the mistake they made by not visiting her while she can still carry on a meaningful conversation.
Mom never complains, but she has said she’d like to see or hear more from relatives. Why is it that people always have time to go to a funeral but don’t take the time to visit someone special while they’re still alive? I hope my letter convinces someone out there to find time in their busy schedule to visit a person in a nursing home. -- DAUGHTER IN ROCHESTER, N.Y.

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