DEAR ABBY: I have one sister and three younger half-sisters, all of whom I love. Recently, two of my nieces, the daughters of one of my half-sisters, gave birth within months of each other. Both decided to name their babies after their grandparents. One was named after my stepfather, which left me dismayed because I do not love or respect him. In fact, I hate him.
My stepfather was an alcoholic who molested my sister and was physically abusive to me when we were growing up. Yet he was loving and protective of his own daughters, my half-sisters. I don’t believe my nieces are aware of this. My stepfather died before my nieces were born, so they never knew him.
I truly cannot bear to call the baby by his given name. I kept this to myself, but my sister noticed that I avoid using the baby’s name and has confided in me the very same feelings. If she noticed, perhaps my half-sisters have noticed as well.
I don’t want this to end up causing a family rift, but when I hear somebody use the name, I literally start to shake. I thought my stepfather was out of my life forever when he died. How should my sister and I deal with this? Can we make up our own nickname? Currently we both refer to the baby simply as “Baby.” -- NAME-HATER IN THE MIDWEST

News Source : https://www.oregonlive.com/advice/2025/01/dear-abby-i-thought-my-dead-stepfather-was-out-of-my-life-forever-but-new-babys-name-brings-everything-back.html