DEAR ABBY: I am a middle-aged slender woman born into a family of women who have always struggled with weight. Ever since I can remember, I have been subjected to nasty jibes and microaggressions regarding my weight.
My siblings have always kept a close eye on my waistline for clues that I could be gaining. They have also bullied and excluded me, and I have long suspected the reason has something to do with my weight. Depending on my lifestyle and the season, my weight fluctuates by about 10 pounds.
When traveling family members visit, I always hear, “You’re so skinny! I’m so jealous!” Or, if I have put on a few pounds, “You look really healthy!” None of the other women in my family are on the receiving end of these unwelcome comments, and I feel objectified and embarrassed by all this.
I am more than a body. I’m a kind and caring human being who just wants to be accepted and respected by family members I love, despite their annoying comments. How can I get them to stop seeing me as a body and start seeing me as the caring human being I am? I want those comments to stop. -- THIN IN CALIFORNIA

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