DEAR ABBY: My niece is getting married. We have received a wedding invitation, RSVP and all, but it’s addressed only to my two 11-year-old identical twin daughters. My husband and I are not invited to the wedding or to the reception. There’s been no communication as to how child care will be provided for both events.
Puzzled, I texted my niece and expressed a desire to talk about a possible disharmony in our relationship and resolving whatever may be troubling her about me or what I may have done. She texted back saying that her wedding is “intimate” and she’s only inviting people she’s close to and who play an active role in her life. She hopes I can respect her decision and still allow my daughters to attend. Granted, we’re not super close, but any differences we’ve ever had, I have spearheaded to communicate, apologize and move forward with solutions and reassurances.
My niece often has her mother (my sister) ask me if she can spend time with my daughters, and when I agree to come over with them, she tells her mom to tell me, “You’re not invited, just the girls.” I know something is amiss, but she refuses to talk, just text. This kind of conversation cannot be had via text.
I will respect all my niece’s decisions, but I feel she is making passive-aggressive statements about how she feels about me. My daughters don’t want to go and are hurt that she treats me so poorly. More importantly, how can I encourage a close relationship between her and my daughters when she has a history of not respecting me and how I want my daughters cared for? -- EXCLUDED IN CALIFORNIA

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